Some time has gone by since
my last blog. I wrote Part II right before going into New York Fashion Week
& what a week it was. I needed time to integrate, because I’m not the same person
who wrote that last blog. It’s me, but a lot has changed. I will attempt to
briefly tell the story in 3 parts.
Fashion:
Fashion Week was incredible.
My friend Eila & I have been going to the Spring & Fall shows for the
past few years. Our experience has been an ongoing evolution. Every season
brings its joys & challenges. We have both grown as a result & as a
result, the projects are expanding in scope & getting more fun. Our way is
being made, if not easier, then more fun.
For example, working with Starr
Films on the No
Wire Hangers pilot was a lot of fun for me. I’m Eila’s assistant, so I’ll
do just about anything. My Virgo self just kicks in & I go from Fashion
Photographer, to ‘Scout’ meaning I scan for certain people for Eila to
interview. I even do stints as ‘MAL the Amazing Walking Coat Tree,’ but I
really love it. It’s sort of a Virgo obstacle course; serve & keep an eye
on the details. I did. Meeting Marilu Henner was my highlight of the week. I
‘gay-flirted’ with her, snapped her picture, made her laugh & she touched
my face in appreciation. I made Elaine Nardo from Taxi giggle. That’s just
cool.
The cast & crew on No
Wire Hangers were great. We had fun & got some amazing stuff for the show.
It has been a really long time since I was part of something so directly focused
in the entertainment field. I have been skirting it here & there with Eila of
course. But this was more immediate & hands on. It was like being on a
migratory TV stage; cameraman, director, talent & GO! I had a blast. I was
treated really well & I got to serve, the Virgo word, 2nd maybe
to the word analyze.
What I learned throughout the
week is still integrating. It has to do about honor on many levels; honoring
yourself, honoring others, honoring the process. Honoring where everyone was
allowed me the spiritual flexibility to stay cool & move on when things got
bumpy. Then I actually witnessed the expansion in the situation, though more
often in retrospect. In other words,
every bump moment led to a better idea & a fresher direction when I stayed
honorable & calm. Much has evolved within me & I’ll even go far to say
Eila & I’s experience of Fashion Week has been stepped up a notch. It keeps
getting better, healthier & more balanced.
I made new friends, learned
some new skills & certainly applied spiritual principle throughout. In short
I was able to alchemize what would appear to be a commercial, cosmetic journey
into a spiritual & very honor based experience. I’m glad it is only twice a
year, but I wouldn’t trade these weeks for what they bring out of me
spiritually.
Romance:
You know, I’ve always been fond
of Love Spells. LOL! That’s the understatement of the blog. I started studying
magick & Witchcraft as a teen. Who wouldn’t dabble in love magick? Well, I
did & learned the price paid very young. I now consider it one of the most
dangerous forms of magick & as a result of wisdom gained; I keep my Love
Magick aimed at ME.
That said, every now &
again I’ll let the universe know that I’m ready to do more than have a quick
spin around the sexual dance floor (Booty Call Spells). I wanted a longer adventure,
one that has plenty of sweet, slow dances. So, I’d occasionally light a candle,
toss some petals in the canal behind my house, chant something simple then
forget I did it. It was magick that said, “I’m ready, I think…for the highest
good & all that. In Perfect Love & Perfect Trust, let the music begin.”
I don’t target anyone. There are no hairs or nail clippings involved, no
business cards or pictures. I just put it out there in a general way; say ’so
mote it be.’ & get back to work.
Whether it was a spell that
set the wheels in motion, the Angels hearing 2 people’s prayers or just the
path the Gods intended all along, I am now a boyfriend. There is no one more
surprised than me, but it is accompanied by feeling very lucky that I made it
here. Mind you, I don’t really believe in luck.
My new man is a great guy
& a somewhat shy Cancerian. He’s beautiful, warm, smart, communicative
& really sweet/romantic. I grew up with female crabs all though my life. But
the Cancerian male is a whole other shellfish. He’s better than I expected,
honestly. At this point I’m keeping him anonymous only because if you are in my
life, you know him & like I said, he is a “somewhat shy Cancerian.” I really
honor that, as I am used to dating 4 alarm extroverts. We are going at a
healthy & very sweet pace.
We met on Christmas Day as if
by chance. We spent New Year’s Eve together at our annual party in my home. We
had a magickal night & everyone got along greatly. Seeing each other once
or twice a week since, well… it was clear that monogamy was imminent. So I
hatched a plan. By Valentine’s Day we made it official. We are now boyfriends.
Let’s just keep in mind that
I have been a slut, though one with integrity, for a long time. My road to this
guy was a long winding & yes, twisted one. I’m 44. I’ve been out of the
closet since junior year of high school.& have experienced True Love, Great
Love, Fast Love, Cheap Love, & of course, the turd in the punchbowl,
Unrequited Love. All of them were lessons. Each relationship got me
consistently clearer about what I want & who I want to be in an intimate,
romantic, monogamous relationship. Welcome to my mid-40’s, I’m off the market
& in love with a good man. Go Figure! Is nesting soon to follow? He likes
to clean. That helps. I don’t.
BTW, it’s not like the
lessons stop. Oh no, life goes on for the Witch, the Lover, the Teacher &
all the other parts of my Soul. But this man is more than a Lover. He is a companion;
responsible, has his shit together & willing to grow into being the best he
can be. Who am I not to dance to this music, even though it started with
Christmas carols in the air? It happens when you least expect it, right? I
honor him & am more than willing to see where this adventure may lead.
Honor
What weaves the first 2
subjects of Fashion & Romance together is what I learned about Honor &
how it ties into the Season of Imbolc. Remember, the sabbats aren’t just days,
they are full seasons, opportunities to attune to & grow with the cycles of
nature; go with the flow. It’s what Witches do. Plugging the sabbat into the 2nd
Chakra & its sacred Truth, “Honor One Another” is the silver thread that
ties both evolutions together in my life (See part I & II of this sabbat blog.)
The 2nd Chakra is
umbilical, connecting you to the 2nd Chakra of every person you had,
or have in your life. The quality of that energy determines not only the health
of the relationship, but your own spiritual, mental, emotional & physical
health as well. Every relationship we have teaches us in terms to get clear about
what we want & who we want to be in relationships. I’m not just talking
romance & sex here; we’re talking individual relationships with parents,
friends, family & even our relationship with Money & Creativity. That’s
a lot.
So as I underwent both simultaneous
stories of Fashion & Romance, I was able to hold the coordinates of Honor One Another. Even if I didn’t know
how to in the moment, I had the desire to honor the person I was dealing with.
If I wasn’t honored back eventually, I did something to shift that, usually in
myself/honored myself & things worked out perfectly, honor was always
restored on both sides.
Wacky huh? You’d think there
was magick afoot or something. It was magick perhaps, maybe a few circling
spells in the atmosphere decided to land all at once, an enchanted blitzkrieg
of sorts. But I also know I did my inner work. I wasn’t trying to manifest anything
specifically. I just kept an eye on my internal energies in how they felt. I
kepy myself in alignment with Source, Spirit, my Gods etc & I did it only
because I wanted to feel good emotionally. As a result I grabbed the brass
ring, or in this case 2 beautiful silver boyfriend rings & a new evolving
project that bridges the Fashion, Entertainment & Spiritual worlds.
So, who knows what happens
next? Ostara is less than a month away & already my calendar looks wild. I
guess I’ll just have to keep blogging. I’ll keep you in the loop. But mind you,
Mercury turns Retrograde this week. So keep your spell check on & your
spells checked 2 or 3 times.
Blessed Be,
Rev. Mark A. Lyons, President
Drawing the Circle Productions INC.
DrawingtheCircle@aol.com
631-968-8307 @ProfWitch on Twitter
www.drawingthecircle.com
