Pre-Samhain 2013: Not Looking for a New Love, Baby

I haven’t blogged since Lughnasadh (August 1^st).

My life has changed really quickly since Litha (Summer Solstice) & I wasn’t ready to write about it yet. I’m still integrating it all. How funny that I would start writing it down during a Mercury Retrograde. Well, when the muse calls, I follow.

I didn’t mention it in my last blog at Lughnasadh , but I met someone in July that changed my life, my new boyfriend. I broke up with the guy I had been dating for 6 months, took some time to…well… slut around a bit & was really enjoying myself. I like being single. I have a field day of it most of the time.

So you can imagine that I wasn’t expecting to be in a relationship so quickly. We had dated 5 years ago in May 2008, right after Beltane. 1 date, which was OK, but we weren’t a match. We said we’d be friends & keep in touch. We didn’t. But you know, the Gods have a sense of humor & are really good at playing Human Chess with our lives. 

In 2008 I joined Facebook & I did one of those things where it sends out invites to the people in your email contacts. I just clickety clicked a bunch of names, he was one of them & the bulk invite was sent. He accepted it & for 5 years we had no contact via Facebook or otherwise. (Not that I didn't poke him. I did, but he wouldn't poke back :(  )

Except once, when he miscalled a number on his cell phone & got me (He told me recently that he was calling another guy named Mark.) I remember I was at my bank in the parking lot. I was a little shocked to see his name on the caller ID, but I took the call. Once we figured out it was a ‘wrong number’ we laughed, said we would keep in touch, again as friends. Aaaaaaaand again, we didn’t.

Now jump to June 2013. I break up with the guy I was dating on Gay Pride Weekend & as I said, I went afield to seek my pleasure. I had at it because, “My Momma told me, you better shop around.” I dated the hottest guy: really tall, smart, darkly funny & so charming. He drove me around in a BMW convertible on 4^th of July weekend. I met his friends, saw an amazing fireworks show across the lake from where they were shooting them off . Did I mention he was REALLY tall? I like TALL, always have. Anyway, he was great. I could have continued dating him indefinitely. He was a Capricorn, they’re like that. They can go the long haul if they want to. I do well with Caps, being a Virgo myself. It’s an earth sign thing.

2 days later I posted a Facebook comment about a spider bite on my finger & the possibility of spider-like powers as a result. (July 9^th. I looked it up.) Well, the aforementioned Mr. May 2008 finally made a move & commented on the post about me spinning my web on him. WHAT? Hi!

I Looked at his profile & FROZE. He’s a Virgo. I had avoided dating other Virgos for most of my life. Well, there were those guys that I never asked their sign, or name... My 30’s were a lot of fun. I had forgotten that we shared the same sign.  In that moment that stretched out for a while I heard, “Just say Hi.” So… I did. 

3 days later he laid True Loves Kiss (TLK) on me & we have been together ever since. So here I am, in a relationship, an open relationship, because it’s only been a little over 3 months. But we really do love each other. He’s on a spiritual path. I didn’t see that one coming, though I had asked for it for years. He is tall, dark, handsome, charming & best of all, funny. You need a real sense of humor to deal with, not just me which takes a lot granted, but also the whole Witch thing, coven, career & oh yeah, that whole clairvoyant empath thing makes it reeeeal interesting.

So we laugh; 2 Virgo smartasses. He cooks, he cleans, he makes me coffee & actually enjoys it. Who knew such men existed? But he’s here as I write this, asleep at 4am like most Muggles are. He stayed here tonight  while I was with my friend Eila on another Fashion World adventure. He fed my cat Sabastian while I was clicking away pictures at a party at Bergdorf Goodman. I chatted with Martha Stewart by the way. Not bad for a Wednesday night. Don’t believe me?

Martha & MAL

But here’s the thing & prepare yourself. Cliché alert! It was nice to come home to him; the house warm, the TV on & him bundled up on the couch in like 20 blankets. (He doesn’t like the cold.) Did I mention he has a Cancer Moon? No, I didn’t because with the amount of Cancerian women that I have in all of my life, I am totally screwed on this one. I’ll try not to mention it again.

So, all of this is to catch you up & catch me up for Samhain, which I will be writing about soon. There’s just no way I could write about Samhain without getting that whole story out. It’ll make more sense later.

But for now, I’m gonna go climb in bed with him. He’s out like a light, so I’m gonna meditate myself to sleep, probably spooned, & thank the Gods for my life. Oh yeah, Spiritual Thanksgiving. Like the Mabon 2013 blog I didn’t write. But I’ll pick up at Mabon next time & soon. But now, I’m gonna go home & sleep with my boyfriend. (Nod to Mr. Green.)

Blessed Be,

Rev. Mark A. Lyons, President
Drawing the Circle Productions, INC
Drawingthecircle@aol.com
www.drawingthecircle.com

P.S. I swear this all totally has to do with the Wheel of the Year & the magick I did starting at Yule of last year.

A Prayer for Mercury Retrograde

Mercury Retrograde is an Astrological event that happens 3 times a year.

Because of the different shapes & sizes of planetary orbits, some planets appear to go backwards in the sky for periods of time. They don't actually reverse in orbit, but they appear to.

When this happens, the planet's sphere of symbolic influence tends to go backwards. for example; when Venus goes retro, relationships tend to get complicated or we go through a period of rethinking relationships, major purchases etc. In other words, we redo that content of the planet's energetic coordinated in our lives.

When it happen to Mercury, as it will this weekend, we have the opportunity to re-think everything in our lives. At the same time, people tend to experience a certain amount of chaos & turbulence in all things dealing with messages & communications. It's not a great time to sign contracts for example, as what we think during mercury retro tends to change once it comes direct. The tendency to misread detail is huge. So we are all advised again & again to slow down, rethink everything & examine detail before making any major decisions.

I also find it helpful, as a speaker, teacher & communicator, to emphasize clarity when I speak. Though even I get tongue-tied during Merc Ret. So here is a prayer I wrote several years ago. It is a prayer to Hermes, the Greek Messenger of the Gods, who is the pre-Roman version of Mercury.

I suggest this as a daily prayer. What in life is once & done? The intention is about grace, walking in grace, talking in grace & above all else, living in grace.

Let me know how this feels & works for you in the comments below & of course, I wish us all well through this potentially amazing time of rethinking our lives.

Blessed Be,

Rev. Mark A. Lyons, President
Drawing the Circle Productions INC.
DrawingtheCircle@aol.com
631-968-8307 @ProfWitch on Twitter
www.drawingthecircle.com

Prayer for Mercury Retrograde

Dear Hermes,

I know this Mercury Retrograde is a trying time.

Please, let your divine order permeate my life. I let it in so it can do its work.

May this time be used for my highest good & for the highest good of all concerned.

Align my life to your will. Use this retrograde as a time for refinement.

May I have grace through this month & next,

so I will easily & effortlessly become that which you would have me be.

Bless my path & my way. Remind me of the things I have to remember.

Open my eyes & my mind so I may find the things you have placed right in front of me.

Open & heal my heart, so if I do get frustrated & afraid, I have what I need to heal readily available.

Please Hermes, help me to see your will.

May your Divine order be wholly displayed in my life & in all my affairs,

so the world may see your might & glory. 

So Mote it Be.