Pre-Samhain 2013: Not Looking for a New Love, Baby

I haven’t blogged since Lughnasadh (August 1^st).

My life has changed really quickly since Litha (Summer Solstice) & I wasn’t ready to write about it yet. I’m still integrating it all. How funny that I would start writing it down during a Mercury Retrograde. Well, when the muse calls, I follow.

I didn’t mention it in my last blog at Lughnasadh , but I met someone in July that changed my life, my new boyfriend. I broke up with the guy I had been dating for 6 months, took some time to…well… slut around a bit & was really enjoying myself. I like being single. I have a field day of it most of the time.

So you can imagine that I wasn’t expecting to be in a relationship so quickly. We had dated 5 years ago in May 2008, right after Beltane. 1 date, which was OK, but we weren’t a match. We said we’d be friends & keep in touch. We didn’t. But you know, the Gods have a sense of humor & are really good at playing Human Chess with our lives. 

In 2008 I joined Facebook & I did one of those things where it sends out invites to the people in your email contacts. I just clickety clicked a bunch of names, he was one of them & the bulk invite was sent. He accepted it & for 5 years we had no contact via Facebook or otherwise. (Not that I didn't poke him. I did, but he wouldn't poke back :(  )

Except once, when he miscalled a number on his cell phone & got me (He told me recently that he was calling another guy named Mark.) I remember I was at my bank in the parking lot. I was a little shocked to see his name on the caller ID, but I took the call. Once we figured out it was a ‘wrong number’ we laughed, said we would keep in touch, again as friends. Aaaaaaaand again, we didn’t.

Now jump to June 2013. I break up with the guy I was dating on Gay Pride Weekend & as I said, I went afield to seek my pleasure. I had at it because, “My Momma told me, you better shop around.” I dated the hottest guy: really tall, smart, darkly funny & so charming. He drove me around in a BMW convertible on 4^th of July weekend. I met his friends, saw an amazing fireworks show across the lake from where they were shooting them off . Did I mention he was REALLY tall? I like TALL, always have. Anyway, he was great. I could have continued dating him indefinitely. He was a Capricorn, they’re like that. They can go the long haul if they want to. I do well with Caps, being a Virgo myself. It’s an earth sign thing.

2 days later I posted a Facebook comment about a spider bite on my finger & the possibility of spider-like powers as a result. (July 9^th. I looked it up.) Well, the aforementioned Mr. May 2008 finally made a move & commented on the post about me spinning my web on him. WHAT? Hi!

I Looked at his profile & FROZE. He’s a Virgo. I had avoided dating other Virgos for most of my life. Well, there were those guys that I never asked their sign, or name... My 30’s were a lot of fun. I had forgotten that we shared the same sign.  In that moment that stretched out for a while I heard, “Just say Hi.” So… I did. 

3 days later he laid True Loves Kiss (TLK) on me & we have been together ever since. So here I am, in a relationship, an open relationship, because it’s only been a little over 3 months. But we really do love each other. He’s on a spiritual path. I didn’t see that one coming, though I had asked for it for years. He is tall, dark, handsome, charming & best of all, funny. You need a real sense of humor to deal with, not just me which takes a lot granted, but also the whole Witch thing, coven, career & oh yeah, that whole clairvoyant empath thing makes it reeeeal interesting.

So we laugh; 2 Virgo smartasses. He cooks, he cleans, he makes me coffee & actually enjoys it. Who knew such men existed? But he’s here as I write this, asleep at 4am like most Muggles are. He stayed here tonight  while I was with my friend Eila on another Fashion World adventure. He fed my cat Sabastian while I was clicking away pictures at a party at Bergdorf Goodman. I chatted with Martha Stewart by the way. Not bad for a Wednesday night. Don’t believe me?

Martha & MAL

But here’s the thing & prepare yourself. Cliché alert! It was nice to come home to him; the house warm, the TV on & him bundled up on the couch in like 20 blankets. (He doesn’t like the cold.) Did I mention he has a Cancer Moon? No, I didn’t because with the amount of Cancerian women that I have in all of my life, I am totally screwed on this one. I’ll try not to mention it again.

So, all of this is to catch you up & catch me up for Samhain, which I will be writing about soon. There’s just no way I could write about Samhain without getting that whole story out. It’ll make more sense later.

But for now, I’m gonna go climb in bed with him. He’s out like a light, so I’m gonna meditate myself to sleep, probably spooned, & thank the Gods for my life. Oh yeah, Spiritual Thanksgiving. Like the Mabon 2013 blog I didn’t write. But I’ll pick up at Mabon next time & soon. But now, I’m gonna go home & sleep with my boyfriend. (Nod to Mr. Green.)

Blessed Be,

Rev. Mark A. Lyons, President
Drawing the Circle Productions, INC
Drawingthecircle@aol.com
www.drawingthecircle.com

P.S. I swear this all totally has to do with the Wheel of the Year & the magick I did starting at Yule of last year.

Lughnasadh 2013: Harvesting the Light

Lughnasadh 2013: Harvesting the Light

Each of us has the opportunity to see in 1 of 2 essential directions. We can see truth or we can see illusion. The choice is ours, but not so easily done. We can look at our lives & worlds through the lens of the shadow or through the lens of the light. This is an archetypal truth as all things have their shadow & light in a dualistic world.

Lugh, the Celtic God of light who’s Holy Day & following season Lughnasadh, is all about the mental choice to harvest the light/truth & gather in all of the Love, Power & Wisdom such a harvest automatically brings. Thus Lughnasadh marks the beginning of Harvest Season.

As I was laying in bed last night after watching some inspirational stuff on TV I heard this prayer to Lugh.

Brilliant Lugh, Burning Bright

Bless me; touch me with your might.

Fill my eyes with Godly light

So I may see with blessed sight.

As sweetly poetic & reminiscent to the Green Lantern oath as it is, it keyed me into a connection to Lugh, the 3 month harvest season that Lughnasadh initiates & the 3^rd Eye.

Lughnasadh is the 6^th Sabbat in the Witch’s Wheel of the Year. Each sabbat has a chakra correspondent, starting with Yule/Winter Solstice which links to the Root Chakra & on upwards. Lughnasadh being the 6^th, it correlates to the 3^rd Eye, the chakra that, let’s face it, has the best press agent.

The 3^rd Eye manages Mental Power & we are aware of how wonderful & dangerous that power can be. Many of our deeply held beliefs are based on false premises. The illusion of separation, when gradually undone dismantles racism, misogyny/sexism & even co-dependence among other shadow beliefs that control how we see the world.

So, we have the opportunity to weed the garden of our minds of these false beliefs/weeds, which sap our true sight. Yes, again, the pagan Agriculture Archetype. This leads me to a little discussion I like to have with my students about 1^st sight.

“First Sight means you can see what really is there, and Second Thoughts mean thinking about what you are thinking. And in Tiffany's case, there were sometimes Third Thoughts and Fourth Thoughts although these...sometimes led her to walk into doors.”

― Terry Pratchett, I Shall Wear Midnight

OR:

“First Sight is when you can see what’s really there, not what your head tells you ought to be there… Second sight is dull sight, it’s seeing only what you expect to see.

–Terry Pratchett, The Wee Free Men.

 

That said, Lughnasadh can highlight the very mental attitudes we carry that prevents us from experiencing & manifesting what we want in life. In our coven we see Lughnasadh as the sabbat of ‘sacrifice,’ though it’s not about slitting throats or virgins... usually. The idea is, if you haven’t yet manifested what you started casting for at Yule/Winter Solstice, then you need to make room in your mind & your life for what is trying to get in, but can’t get in due to the old or illusory that blocks it. In other words, start some late Summer Cleaning (in lieu/Lugh of spring cleaning) or better yet, weeding the garden of your mind/life.

The spell I received last night & printed above can be a good jumping off point. But keep in  mind, no sabbat is just one day. They mark first a 1 & ½ month period from sabbat to sabbat, but also mark a whole 3 month season. Lughnasadh marks the beginning of the Harvest Season that will conclude at Samhain. 

So have at it my magickally minded friends, but be gentle with yourself. No sense trying to dismantle belief systems based on false premises in one go. That leads to all sorts of psychological & spiritual crises & complications. Rather, have fun with this. Question everything & put your focus on that which really rings with a high vibrational truth. In this you ‘sacralize’/make sacred the light & truth in your life while sacrificing what was never truth, felt good or served.

Blessed Be & Blessed Lughnasadh

Rev. Mark A. Lyons, President
Drawing the Circle Productions, INC
Drawingthecircle@aol.com
www.drawingthecircle.com
631-968-8307